"Weren't you guys talking for awhile?"
I've got my drink in my hand and now I am wondering how this person would even know if I had talked to a certain guy or not.For years my dating life has on display. With some of it, I've been very public and other stuff I've tried to be really private. But growing up in a town where everyone seems to be connected and going to college in a smaller town, people tend to find things out. And sometimes even I don't know how.
And even now in the present when I am in a relationship, my past is still asked about.
I'm still the girl that dated that one guy. And also the girl that talked to that one guy for awhile. I can't wait for the day where it's not, "Rachel Marshall, the girl that dated him and talked to him" label. I am dreaming of the day where it's "Rachel Marshall, the girl that does cool stuff. The girl that gets stuff done. The girl that inspires."
I guess I've come to find out that it bothers me to be tied to guys as my identifier. I want to be known more for my work. My passions. I want people to inquire about my creativity, my projects. Heck, gossip about my blog posts. Not my ex-boyfriend. I don't want to be solely tied to boys and dating.It seems that women deal with this societal issue of relationships and dating. Great examples would be so much press coverage over Taylor Swift's past relationships even if she has been with Calvin Harris for a year, who Selena Gomez is dating now, and if Kourtney Kardashian is hooking up with Justin Bieber or not.
Yes, I dated him. Yep, I talked to him. Now let's talk about my latest article or my new adventure in Mary Kay or the chapbook I am trying to put together for a contest. Anything other than ghosts of my past.
